Catching feelings for single pastors ; Not your fault

 So, because I'm churchy and I love God, people like to assume I'll be a pastor's wife. Plus, my name has 'Jesus' in it too (Funmi Jesus)😁. To many, he definitely has to be a G.O.. So, they call me Mummy G.O. I now smile when they say that. Before, I would usually say, "God forbid." But now that I'm more mature, I just smile in my heart, saying eventually, "Na God go shock una, no be me."

Pushing people into that means that you are building a subconscious theme in their mind to be expectant. When people like that see a normal Christian who is working and bouncing for the Lord, they just ignore and say, "My pastor is coming." Do you know that sometimes my daddy would even call me and say, "Funmi, when will the pastor come and see us?" That's because they have just believed that it has to be a pastor that their daughter will marry. I just smile 😁😁.

Unfortunately, there are many persons in ministry that don't necessarily have to be a pastor. 

Don't get me wrong, I love pastors so much, but a lot of the time, I'm usually scared of the responsibility that comes with being a pastor's wife. For some persons like me, God will take His time to cook us until we have the capacity to be one, if that's really His Will.

To be a pastor's wife, my dear, you need capacity. It's not just about Mummy G.O., Mummy G.O. The fame, of course, will be there, but what happens when the pressure sets in? If God didn't place you there or give you the capacity, you will be overwhelmed and maybe ruin your husband's ministry.

There was a time I was genuinely worried for pastor's wives. I mean, because everyone thinks I'll be a preacher's wife, so I usually put myself in their shoes. I began to imagine a scenario where my husband was probably on the altar preaching, and then suddenly, he forgot a story and tried to exaggerate to get the audience excited. What will my reaction be?

- Will I keep smiling?

- If I'm able to, do I correct him immediately?

- Do I nod my head in the negative?

- Do I stand up and clap?

You know how you have to support your husband and all, and maybe cover up for him and correct him inside. What if he doesn't make it inside? What if, yes, I correct him inside, but the error was already in the minds of people and there's a first-timer who would not come the following Sunday to hear the real truth?

I'm a very deep thinker; for many years, this thought has lingered in my heart. Because, of course, people forget things, and if it gets to that point, you sometimes want to tell the audience what they want to hear. Sometimes my jokes are like that, even as a drama minister.

Well, there are some other things I think about as well. Because if God leads you, and it's not people leading you, He will give you the capacity to deal with issues. You will learn and unlearn, people will correct you, and step on you as a pastor's wife. It's going to be tough.

There are some things you have to look away from. Some must be addressed immediately. Some persons are agents that want to take your seat... Those ones can be sorted by wisdom, prayer, and discernment.

But your husband going into error? You need a higher level of wisdom to deal with that so that eventually, you don't leave him alone in his error just because he refuses to listen.

Well, this is for those catching unnecessary feelings for their single pastor. My dear, I feel you, I understand you. If you check it very well, it's not really what you want; it's what they have built in you and framed in your mind because you love God and sometimes you dress like Mummy G.O.

Please, open your heart to God. What He has for you may not even be a pastor. Maybe a businessman who genuinely loves God, or not your regular kind of pastor.

Just be open to God, my dear God lover. Eventually, it will be well.

And if you are a pastor's wife in this category, like whenever your husband is preaching, he says some things that are not correct and you don't know how to correct him, keep praying for him. Subject his mind to the Will of God and ensure that the Lord Himself speaks to him. When that happens, correcting him will be so easy.

Now that I have shared my story, let's hear your comments below 👇.

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